Dr. John K. Pollard, III

The first thing you need to hear, is that most probably YOU DON’T KNOW HOW RELATIONSHIPS WORK right now; not unless you’ve read my book and/or somebody’s told you who has.

To make a long story short, it takes 4-steps to learn any skill and the first step is realizing that you don’t know whatever skill it is you wish to learn. Until you realize that you don’t know how to (insert skill here), you are happy not knowing how to (chop wood, or water ski, or whatever).  So until you first become aware that you don’t actually understand How Relationships Work, you’ll never “get” that you might want to know.

So I have a strange dilemma. Instead of just talking about how relationships work, I’ve got to challenge YOU to ask yourself this question. Can you describe HOW RELATIONSHIPS WORK? Do you have a conscious neutral way of thinking and talking about relationships that is consistent, verifiable, and helpful to you on a daily basis? If so, lucky you. If not,  perhaps you’d want to know more. Since you is already IN relationships, and they “sort of” work, then you might be fooled into thinking that you do indeed know how they work. At least you’ve had a lot of experience participating in relationships. To me this would be like being on a boat adrift in the ocean and thinking you know how to sail. You are in the boat, it’s moving, but you are not sailing it, you are just going wherever the boat takes you. There’s a big difference between knowing how to sail and drifting in the ocean.

It’s similar in relationships. You are in them, going for a ride, but you don’t know where they are taking you because you don’t know how they work. I guarantee this to be true, because I know for a fact that the HOW RELATIONSHIPS WORK system is no where else to be found. Until HOW RELATIONSHIPS WORK becomes popular enough that the early adopters know about it and spread the word, you could never hope to know what’s in HOW RELATIONSHIPS WORK until you read it for yourself.

Eventually people will copy this info (once you learn it’s not that complicated) and I’m sure many will say they discovered it. But until that time which hasn’t arrived yet, there is no other source of truly knowing HOW RELATIONSHIPS WORK other than from my book (or possibly the radio shows).

Here’s a sample quote from one of its early readers.

HRW will help a lot of people to QUICKLY identify what the real problem is
in ANY relationship. This book is direct and easy-to-read and
not full of jargon. Once the problem is identified,
the reader will find his or her own solutions easily.  A lot of problems
in relationships exist because most people don’t really know
what the relationship is and what the roles/rules are.
I learned more about my relationships after reading HRW than
I did reading hundreds of relationship books.
Camille B – Chicago, IL

Maybe you haven’t read 100’s of relationship books. I have, still do, and much of that time is wasted.

Why bother? Save yourself all the misspent time of my life. Just cut to the chase and find out what you don’t know about relationships and then get back to your wild and crazy life with your new understanding and see how things go.

John K. Pollard, III
Author of How Relationships Work
Creator of Generic Human Studies