All HUMAN Relationships

Dr. John K. Pollard, III

Dear Readers,

If I told you that there might be a way to learn everything you DON’T know about relationships, every single thing, would this make you mad or would this seem attractive to you? I could see this causing a few different reactions:

1) Mad, because “Who would presume to insult YOU, that you didn’t already know a lot about relationships?”

2) Attracted, because  “You realize that if you actually COULD learn EVERYTHING you don’t know about relationships, you’d be combining that with everything you already DO know. How cool is that?”

3) A third person might feel he/she knows everything they need to know about relationships, so they don’t need to know anything more. That’s fine by me as well.

4)  And finally, another ‘tude might be not caring about relationships at all, but such a person wouldn’t be reading this blog, that’s for sure.

So, for that person in category 2 above, I’m saying it’s potentially possible for YOU to combine everything you knew already and what you didn’t know from before. continue

Dr. John K. Pollard, III

The first thing you need to hear, is that most probably YOU DON’T KNOW HOW RELATIONSHIPS WORK right now; not unless you’ve read my book and/or somebody’s told you who has.

To make a long story short, it takes 4-steps to learn any skill and the first step is realizing that you don’t know whatever skill it is you wish to learn. Until you realize that you don’t know how to (insert skill here), you are happy not knowing how to (chop wood, or water ski, or whatever).  So until you first become aware that you don’t actually understand How Relationships Work, you’ll never “get” that you might want to know.

So I have a strange dilemma. Instead of just talking about how relationships work, I’ve got to challenge YOU to ask yourself this question. Can you describe HOW RELATIONSHIPS WORK? Do you have a conscious neutral way of thinking and talking about relationships that is consistent, verifiable, and helpful to you on a daily basis? If so, lucky you. If not,  perhaps you’d want to know more. continue

Dr. John K. Pollard, III

I track all the googly articles on HOW RELATIONSHIPS WORK. Most of them are so bad as to be unreadable much less have any informational value.

Why do I say this? Because I actually know HOW RELATIONSHIPS WORK.

• If one doesn’t know this topic, then many of these articles are semi-coherent and express the opinion of the writer, so I suppose they are “part of the dialogue” and maybe these people feel better expressing their feelings and all.
• But if YOU are looking for real answers to REAL problems, you are not going to find them on google. I suppose this would be similar to searching for medical information on medical problems, and getting a bunch of opinions, propaganda. and misinformation instead of something you could actually USE to treat your symptoms or condition.
• Part of what I’ve done with HOW RELATIONSHIPS WORK is to exclude all the blather and nonsense about relationships, and made sure that the basics of what you want and need to know are readily accessible.

You might not realize this so I want to make this point, as most people don’t know what they don’t know about relationships and this affects their search for useful information.

So, if you actually ARE looking for help as opposed to entertainment, get a copy HOW RELATIONSHIPS WORK and if the answers to your relationships aren’t there (highly unlikely) then let me know and I’ll be posting the questions and responses here for people like yourself.

Google is what I call a “dumb system.” It’s got everything on anything. It’s like a big pile of garbage dumped on your head so you can pick through the trash looking for scraps.

HRW is a “smart system.” It only provides what you want and need to know. It takes three steps to get to any answer you could be looking for about relationships. There’s a big difference. Most people I know are looking to save time, money, aggravation, etc. Does that include you?